On this episode of Investing for Freedom, Mike talks about success being right outside your comfort zone. Mike urges us to commit to things we want to do, to not worry about the limiting beliefs that we have and to do something that scares us every day.
“There are so many things that keep us in fear because we want to live in our comfort zone every day. And the only thing that’s going to change your current situation is leveraging some new relationship, some new course that you’re going to take, some new hobby that you want to take on.”
0:00 – Intro
0:38 – Success is right outside of your comfort zone
1:07 – If you ever want to connect with someone and you’re just waiting, be patient, there’s usually a chance to connect
2:19 – There are so many people who try to create relationships through tactics
2:58 – Mike’s friend says that there is only one answer when a client says “do you want to do X”
3:29 – Doing one thing every day that excites you. It could be reaching out to someone or having a conversation that you’ve been too scared to have
3:50 – Discomfort has lead to Mike finding success
4:27 – If you find yourself saying no to something you really want to do, take some internal inventory and think about it
5:37 – Mike decided to commit to improving his golf game
6:22 – What do you need to do to become the individual to say yes to all of the opportunities you get?
7:09 – You have to stop living inside your comfort zone
Thank you for joining me on the Investing for Freedom podcast. Today I’m going to talk to you about something I’ve been pondering lately. And it’s this statement, success is right outside of your comfort zone. And I found a lot of times in my life when I think back through situations, it’s really these times, I’m thinking about right now the statement by Eleanor Roosevelt – “do one thing every day that scares you.” And it’s really these times when I’m looking backwards. When I was outside of my comfort zone, and I’m doing the things that I’m really not comfortable with, I’m stretching myself, right outside of that comfort zone is where success is.
So this morning, I was in my DMs on Facebook Messenger. And I’m having a conversation with a real estate investor from here in the Phoenix valley that I’ve actually been wanting to get in touch with for a while. And I’m sharing this because I found that whenever you really want to connect with somebody, if you’re just patient, and you’re waiting, there’s usually an opportunity for you to connect with them. And that’s what happened with this guy. So over the course of the last few months, I’ve had several people say to me, Mike, you need to talk with this person. You guys live in the same Valley, you guys have a lot in common, I think you guys would really get along together. And so I’m like, following him on Instagram, and he makes a comment about something that he’s wanting to do. And he needs some help. And so I reached out, and I sent him a credit to a coaching program that he’s needing. And anyway, long story short, I basically helped him with a need that he had.
And so the reason why I’m saying all that is when you want to connect with somebody, just be patient, and you will find an opportunity. All of us I think could relate to the fact you know, when you’re in your DMS and somebody, you know whether it’s on Instagram or Facebook or LinkedIn, somebody’s always like, hey, it was nice to connect. And then pretty soon Here comes the pitch. I help high-net-worth entrepreneurs do xxx. In the world that we live in today, there are so many people that are creating, they’re trying to create relationships through these little tactics and strategies on how to connect. And what I’m saying to you is just take your time, and be patient and find an opportunity to bring value to someone. And that’s the best way to connect with them.
The reason why I’m saying all this, this led to a conversation this morning, as I was talking to this person, the thing that he really needed, was help with his golf game. He’s actually never golf before. And as I’m talking to him, I’m like, so why did you decide to take up golf? And he’s like, Well, I have a client coming into town. And they asked me to go golfing. And he made this comment. And this is the real point of my podcast today. He made a comment today. And he said there’s only one right answer, right? When a high-value client says to you, hey, do you want to do X? Whether it’s comfortable to you or not, his statement was there’s only one right answer. And that answer is yes. And so that’s why I bring up, you know, success is right outside of your comfort zone. When Eleanor Roosevelt said that do one thing every day that scares you. I’m like, could you really just intentionally do something every single day that scares you? Well, maybe it’s not skydiving, maybe it’s not something like that super intentional. But maybe it’s just something that puts you outside of your comfort zone, it’s reaching out to someone that you’ve been wanting to connect with. It’s having a conversation that you’ve been scared to have, it’s really just thinking about things that are outside of your comfort zone, whatever that is for you. And when I look backwards, every single time that I’ve had major successes in my life, I can look. And I was doing something that was uncomfortable, I was stretching myself to a new level, I was taking on risks that I currently hadn’t taken on before. I was outside of my comfort zone when it came to risk or even my leadership abilities. I mean, a lot of times, we all deal with the same thing. And I know a lot of times we look at super successful CEOs or you know, online marketers or people that are running podcasts or whatever it is. And you think that they’ve just got it all together. The only difference between you and them is that they’re operating right outside of their comfort zone.
And so the thing I want to challenge you with today is if you find yourself saying no to something that you really want to do, just take some internal inventory, and just really think about that. Why am I saying no to this? Here’s an example. And this goes back to the golf game. I’ve been a pretty avid golfer now for, you know, probably the last six months.
When I look backwards. I mean all the way to high school, really, I’ve always wanted to be a good golfer. But the last few years I found myself no.
When I look back over the last few years, I found myself literally in the same boat as this person that I was talking to this morning saying no to some golf games because I wasn’t confident or comfortable enough in my abilities to go out on the golf course with the certain people that were asking me to go, and here’s what it really came down to. I’ve been asked literally twice that I can think of, to go spend a day on the golf course with people that were like scratch golfers, they’re really good. They take the game really seriously. And for all intents and purposes, like I should have been there, these were great opportunities for me to connect, not just on the golf course, but for future relationships when it came to finance, business investing, etc. And unlike the person that I was talking about this morning, I said no. And so when you find yourself in a position, where you’re saying no to something that you know, you should be saying yes to, if you can get yourself comfortable in your current skill set. For me, it was the fact that I was not a great golfer. So what did I do about it, I finally decided, you know what, I’m going to get golf lessons, I’m going to golf once a week, I committed to literally spending every single week of my life, on the golf course, in a lesson on the range, etc. And since September, which right now we’re sitting in February, mid-February since September, I’ve only missed golf one week. And I’ve gone from the point where I’ve shaved literally 15 to 20 strokes off my game, just by committing to something and basically no longer feeling comfortable outside of my comfort zone, like I’m ready, I’m making things happen. And so what my question for you today is if you find yourself saying no to something that you really want to say yes to, what do you need to do in order to become the individual that you need to become in order to start saying yes to that. And I love the way that this guy said it this morning, there’s only one right answer, and the answer is always, yes.
I actually could have said yes to that. And actually, the people that I was golfing with probably could have cared less. But the reality was, I was limiting myself, I was keeping myself within my comfort zone, not stepping outside of it. And success was eluding me, this has nothing to do with golf, it really has nothing to do with shooting, it really has nothing to do with a meeting that you’ve been wanting to take and possibly saying no to. It has nothing to do with launching out and starting your own business. It has nothing to do with specifically real estate investing, or whatever it is, it has 100% to do with you, and you just living within your comfort zone.
So here’s the same statement that I started with, success is right outside of your comfort zone. So what do you need to do to get outside of your norm, and feel comfortable making steps? That’s the only thing that separates successful people from where you’re sitting today. And again, like I said, maybe it’s you know, leaving your job, maybe it’s launching a new company, maybe it’s taking a better job, maybe it’s applying for a better job. There’s so many things that keep us in fear because we want to live in our comfort zone every day. And the only thing that’s going to change your current situation is leveraging some new relationship, some new course that you’re going to take, some new hobby that you want to take on, I don’t know what it is for you. But you’ve got to step outside of your comfort zone and get moving today.
So I’m going to leave you with that. Hope it helps, go out there and do something every single day that scares you.